Thank you for taking the time to visit Grief.com. We hope that it will be a source of information, resources and comfort. If you are here, you may be facing some of the most difficult times of your life and perhaps dealing with unfamiliar terrain that illness, death, grief and loss can bring with them. Our goal is to provide you with the tools and resources to help guide you through situations you may be facing. No matter what your loss is, for many this may be a time when you feel very alone and we hope some of the information in this page can help you deal with what’s in front of you.
Bereavement groups often offer individuals an important opportunity to be with others as they allow their grief to heal. Read More.
Children in Grief
Children read our feelings and mirror our emotions. Soaking up reassurance or fear, love or hate, safety or danger. Read More.
Grief & Holidays
When you have lost someone special, your world losses its celebratory qualities. Holidays only magnify the loss. Read More.
Dealing with Pain
Each person has his or her own beliefs about pain and pain behaviors. What are your beliefs about pain? Read More.
IN THE NEWS:
Nelson Mandela, 1918-2013: Remembering an Icon of Freedom
Nelson Mandela was always uncomfortable talking about his own death. But not because he was afraid or in doubt. He was uncomfortable because he understood that people wanted him to offer homilies about death and he had none to give. He was an utterly unsentimental man. I once asked him about his mortality while we were out walking one morning in the Transkei, the remote area of South Africa where he was born. He looked around at the green and tranquil landscape and said something about how he would be joining his “ancestors.” “Men come and men go,” he later said. “I have come and I will go when my time comes.”… Read More
Frequently Asked Questions
What is Grief?
Grief is the internal part of loss, how we feel. The internal work of grief is a process, a journey. It does not end on a certain day or date. It is as individual as each of us. Grief is real because loss is real. Each grief has its own imprint, as distinctive and as unique as the person we lost. The pain of loss is so intense, so heartbreaking, because in loving we deeply connect with another human being, and grief is the reflection of the connection that has been lost.
When does Grief end?
Grief is not just a series of events, or stages or timelines. Our Society places enormous pressure on us to get over loss, to get through the grief. But how long do you grieve for a husband of fifty years? A teenager killed in a car accident? A four-year-old child? A year? Five years? Forever? The loss happens in time, in fact in a moment, but its aftermath lasts a lifetime.
In this month’s Featured Video, renowned Author and Grief expert David Kessler identifies the Most Common Feelings/Symptoms of Grief.
Featured Book: The End of Your Life Book Club
During her treatment for cancer, Mary Anne Schwalbe and her son Will spent many hours sitting in waiting rooms together. To pass the time, they would talk about the books they were reading. Once, by chance, they read the same book at the same time—and an informal book club of two was born. A profoundly moving memoir of caregiving, mourning, and love.
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Featured Movie: What Dreams May Come
While vacationing in Switzerland, physician Chris Nielsen (Robin Williams) meets artist Annie Collins (Annabella Sciorra). They are instantly attracted to each other, and bond as if they had known each other for a long time. They marry and have two children: Ian (Josh Paddock) and Marie (Jessica Brooks Grant). Their idyllic life comes to an end when the children die in a car crash. Visit Our Movie Pages
Meet Contributing Author & Grief Expert: David Kessler
David Kessler is one of the most well-known experts and lecturers on death and grieving today, reaching hundreds of thousands of people through his books. “On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief through the Five Stages of Loss is co-authored with the legendary Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. David also co-authored with Kübler-Ross, “Life Lessons: Two Experts on Death and Dying Teach us about the Mysteries of Life and Living.” David considers it an honor and privilege to have worked so closely with Elisabeth for ten years and to be with her during her passing. Learn More about David Kessler
In Memoriam: Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, M.D was a psychiatrist and the author of the groundbreaking On Death and Dying. She has earned a place in history as the best-loved and most-respected authority on the subject. Elisabeth spent most of her life working with the dying. She was born in Zurich Switzerland, one of triplets. She graduated Medical School at the University of Zurich in 1957. She came to the United States in 1958. At the Hospital where she worked in New York, she was appalled by the standard treatment of dying patients. “They were shunned and abused, nobody was honest with them”, she said. Unlike her colleagues, she made it a point to sit with terminal patients, listening as they poured out their hearts to her.
She began giving lectures featuring dying patients who talked about what they were going through. Her first book On Death and Dying in 1969 made Kübler-Ross an internationally renowned author. “My goal was to break through the layer of professional denial that prohibited patients from airing their inner-most concerns,” she wrote. She spent many years speaking to standing room only audiences and writing over twenty books on the subject. Her books have been translated into more than twenty-five languages. She is also the recipient of more than twenty honorary doctorates.
In 1995 she suffered a series of major strokes, which left her paralyzed and facing her own death. At the time she said, “I am like a plane that has left the gate and not taken off. I would rather go back to the gate or fly away.” It was during this time that she and David Kessler wrote their first book together, “Life Lessons: two experts on death and dying teach us about the mysteries of life and living.” She said, “I wanted to finally write a book on life and living”
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross passed away on August 24, 2004. Elisabeth’s last book, co-written with David Kessler, “On Grief and Grieving” was completed one month before her death. “On Grief and Grieving,” is her final legacy, one that brings her life’s work profoundly full circle.